Almost 6 years ago my older sister reached out to me, depressed, obese, and desperate for a change in her life. She asked me if I’d help her set goals and be her accountability buddy so she could turn her life around and become healthy.
We set non-scale goals and built in new habits one at a time. Her very first goal was to look in the mirror each morning and give herself a compliment.
Over the course of 2 years, through self love, self care and challenging herself to grow.. she lost over 120 pounds. But more than what she lost is what she gained. Confidence. Energy. Fun. And a knowledge that she could create change in her life- – even when it was hard- – to help herself feel better.
And as her sidekick, I gained something too. A realization that I LOVE to cheer others on and help them grow. I became an ACE Certified Personal Trainer nutritionist so that I could actually know the science behind what I was doing and continue to help others.
After becoming certified, I spent 2 years building workout and nutrition plans for women to help them achieve their ‘ideal body’.
And for the most part, my clients were successful. Until the program ended. Or a bump in the road knocked them off track. Or they stopped doing what I told them to do.
I began to realize that I’d lost track of where I’d come from. Of what helped my sister change her life in the first place. A BALANCED approach to health that included mental, emotional AND physical.
So I made some changes. And at first it was rough. I stopped weighing clients. I stopped calculating calories and macros for people. I stopped setting weight goals period.
I lost clients. And I was misunderstood. Told that I was not helping anyone by spreading the message ‘You are Enough’ because people think that means ‘You’re fine to stay unhealthy. Don’t change a thing.’
I don’t blame anyone else. I’m not mad about that. It helped me realize my message is unclear and I need to do a better job of sharing what is in my heart.
In an effort to course correct- we are changed our name to ‘Happier Than Skinny’ so that our message could be loud and clear:
As we treat our bodies with love and respect, and build in self care habits that will allow us to feel good- our bodies will naturally manifest a ‘Happy Weight.’
(The weight our body naturally wants to maintain through common sense and self care. )
I believe that each body is equipped with what it needs to be healthy and we need to tune back in and listen.
I believe that mental, emotional and physical health are equally important. Sacrificing mental and emotional health in the name of physical health doesn’t feel like health to me.
I believe that I am an expert of my body. And nobody else’s. But I am passionate about teaching women to be their own experts.
I believe in women supporting women rather competition. We can all rise together. And there is so much wisdom out there to pull in and embrace.
I am a lover of studying all things health. I’m a student. I want to expand into the best version of myself. And like with my sister- I want to cheer other women along in their own journey.
Because we are all in this together. We can all become so much more than just a size.
We can be Happier Than Skinny.